1. If you send a text message to someone and they don't reply, don't send another one.
2. If no one is with you, learn to listen to music, read books, and write by yourself. It's a good habit.
3. Don't lose your temper with people easily.
4. If someone starts to neglect you, please leave them. Don't be reluctant to let go of those who don't cherish you, and don't continue to offer your friendship or love to them.
5. If you can avoid smoking, then don't smoke. If you can avoid drinking alcohol, then don't drink.
6. Even if you're upset, don't go to a bar. A lonely person holding a wine glass or smoking will feel even lonelier and sadder.
7. Develop the habits of having afternoon tea, reading books, and listening to music.
8. Prefer quality over quantity. Don't grab a lover just because you're lonely; it's unfair to both parties and shows a lack of responsibility.
9. Remember the birthdays of the people you like, including your family, and of course, yourself. It doesn't matter if no one gives you gifts on your birthday; you can buy nice gifts for your mom and dad.
10. When you have free time, play some soft music, read a few pages of a good book, then take a lazy nap—it's blissful. You can also sleep when you're in a bad mood.
11. Starting now, be smart and don't ask others if they miss you or love you. If they do miss or love you, they'll naturally tell you. But if you say it first, they may become proud and indifferent towards you.
12. Have fixed places for leisure activities, such as a regular coffee shop or bookstore. Let the staff there know you, so that you'll have a warm place to go when you're lonely.
13. Don't torture yourself for anyone or anything. For example, not eating, crying, isolating yourself, or feeling depressed—these are all things only fools would do. Of course, it's okay to be silly occasionally; life doesn't need to be smart all the time.
14. In any situation, don't gossip about others behind their backs. If you must say something, say something good.
15. Allow yourself to watch soap operas occasionally, but don't become dependent on them. Allow yourself to let your hair down occasionally, but pay attention to the occasion. Allow yourself to swear occasionally, but only in front of close friends or when alone. Remember to forget the sense of relief after saying it.
16. Make sure you have a few opposite-sex friends without any ulterior motives. They can help you out with advice when necessary.
17. Learn to bear pain. Some things are better left unsaid, and some pains are better forgotten silently. After going through experiences, you grow up, and you know it yourself. Many changes don't need to be explained by you; others will see them.
18. Avoid arguments with people as much as possible. An angry person can be terrifying and might lose control and act crazy.
19. No matter who you have conflicts or misunderstandings with, resolve them within 24 hours. Otherwise, more trouble will arise. Within an acceptable range, apologize first. Being the bad guy isn't always a bad thing.