What does "If You Are The One" mean?
1. Regarding men: If you can't give, don't make promises lightly. By the sea in Hokkaido, Shu Qi leans on Tony Leung Chiu Wai and asks, "Will you marry me?" "Yes," "When?" "Give me a little more time." If you can't give, don't promise! - Non-sincere intentions need not apply.
2. Regarding women: Xiao Xiao tells Qin Fen that she wants to be his girlfriend, the kind who will marry him, but states that there is one condition: she needs to reserve a place in her heart for another man. In the barbecue shop in Hokkaido, after a few cups of sake, Qin Fen says, "Even if there are eight women in my heart, you wouldn't know." He said he agreed not because he accepted that she still had feelings for another man, but because he believed that after some time, she would mature and no longer remember that man. However, Xiao Xiao was unwilling because she hadn't realized her own immaturity. At that moment, Qin Fen spoke those words. Relationships aren't a game; if your heart belongs to someone else, don't tell someone you want to marry them. - Non-sincere intentions need not apply.
As for those respondents to Qin Fen's matrimonial advertisement in the movie, they all have their own "situations": homosexuals, tomb sellers, stock traders, frigid individuals, unmarried pregnant women looking for good fathers for their children. Their purposes differ from what Qin Fen seeks in his matrimonial advertisement. Although some are very beautiful or very wealthy, he still sticks to his principles and never considers taking advantage of anyone. - Non-sincere intentions need not apply.
II. My understanding of Director Feng's core theme: relationships are pure; marriage requires harmony; society needs harmonious male-female relations.
Any relationship with ulterior motives or seeking advantage ends up as mutual harm. As for the later-mentioned Tony Leung Chiu Wai, I believe he is destined for pain. Because of his empty promises, the aftermath of passion leads either to the pressure of responsibility or the emptiness of loss. Of course, it also includes the non-sincere "also" disturbances mentioned above, which are bound to be disharmonious and full of differences, hence the seemingly abrupt "difference terminator." In fact, Director Feng is using Ge You to educate all men and women about the understanding of emotions and male-female relationships. Only through harmony can that solitary boat be carried forward.
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