Christmas flower express, Qixi Festival flower express [Reprint] Raising children or raising flowers

Original Address: {Reprint} Raise children, or raise flowers? Author: Heart Itch Raise children? Raise flowers? Your children are not your children,实体 flower shop, they are the "desire to be born" for themselves. - Ji Bolen; Khalil David - My next-door neighbor - has two children, one is 5 years old, and the other is 7 years old. One day he was teaching his 7-year-old child Kelly how to use a gas-powered lawn mower to cut grass. When he was teaching him how to turn the lawnmower at the end, his wife, Jiang, called him to talk about work. When David turned around to answer the question, Kelly pushed the lawnmower onto the flower bed at the edge of the lawn - all the flowers in its path, about 2 feet wide, were flattened! After David turned back and saw what had happened, he began to lose control. David spent a lot of time carefully tending those flower beds that made the neighbors envious. When he started raising his voice to his son, Jiang quickly walked up to him, put her hand on his shoulder, and said: "David, please remember - we're raising children, not flowers!" Jiang reminded me that parents must understand what's important. Children and their self-esteem are more important than any material things they break. The windows broken by baseballs, the lamps accidentally knocked over by children, and the plates dropped in the kitchen are already broken, and the flowers have already died. I must remember not to break a child's spirit, making their sense of vitality numb, and adding greater losses. A few weeks ago, I bought a sports jacket and discussed parenting issues with the owner Mark Max. He told me that when he and his wife and 7-year-old daughter went out for dinner, his daughter spilled a glass of water. These parents did not scold their daughter after the water stain was cleaned up. She looked up at them and said: "You know, I really appreciate that you're not like other parents. Most of my friends' parents would shout at them and teach them to be more careful. Thank you for not doing that!" Once, I had dinner with some friends, and a similar incident occurred. Their 5-year-old son spilled a glass of milk on the table. When they started scolding him, I deliberately spilled my cup too. As I started explaining that I still spill things at 48 years old, the boy began to smile, and his parents seemed to understand my point and stopped being angry. How easily we forget that we are still learning! Recently, I heard a story about Stephen Gray. He was a scientist who once achieved significant medical accomplishments. A newspaper reporter interviewed him about why he was more creative than the average person. What factors made him extraordinary? He replied that, in his view, it all came down to an experience his mother gave him when he was two years old. Once, he tried to take a bottle of milk from the fridge, but the bottle was slippery, and he lost his grip, letting the bottle fall to the ground, splashing everywhere - like a sea of milk! His mother came to the kitchen and instead of yelling at him, scolding him, or punishing him, she said: "Wow, what a great mess you've made! I almost never see such a big pool of milk. Anyway, the damage is done, so do you want to play in the milk for a few minutes before we clean it up?" And he did. After a few minutes, his mother said: "You know, every time you make such a mess, you should clean it up and return things to their original state. So, do you want to do that? We can use a sponge, a towel, or a mop. Which one do you prefer?" He chose the sponge, and they cleaned up the spilled milk together. His mother then said: "You know, we just conducted an unsuccessful experiment on how to effectively hold a large milk bottle with two small hands. Let's go to the backyard, fill the bottle with water, and see if you can lift it." The little boy learned that if he grabbed the top of the bottle near the mouth with both hands, he could hold it without dropping it. What a great lesson! This renowned scientist said that at that moment, he knew he didn't need to fear mistakes. Moreover, he learned that mistakes are just opportunities to learn new things, and scientific experiments are the same. Even if the experiment fails, we will still learn something valuable from it. Wouldn't it be great if everyone's parents reacted the same way as his mother? A few years ago, Paul Lowe once told a story on the radio that also applies to adult relationships. A young woman got into a collision while driving home after work, damaging the fender. She cried as she explained that the car was only a few days out of the factory. How could she explain this to her husband at home? The driver of the other car was full of sympathy, but he also indicated that they needed to note down each other's driver's licenses and license plate numbers. When the young woman took out her documents from a large brown envelope, a piece of paper fell out. On it, in the man's handwriting, it read: "If anything happens... remember, dear, I love you, not the car!" Let us remember that a child's spirit is more important than any material thing. When we remember this, the flowers of self-esteem and love will bloom more beautifully than any flower in the flower bed! MSN Space Perfect Move to Sina Blog!