In the face of insidious and omnipresent unofficial rules, especially under the condition of lacking official rules, how should white collars deal with these unofficial rules? The reporter of Southern Television Station has collected some experts' opinions and sorted out some tricks to deal with unofficial rules according to domestic and foreign open resources. Some skills of TVS are good for white collars to learn from. 1) Thinking in others' positions, self-examination at any time. Everything has its cause, when encountering cold violence, you'd better find out the reason on yourself. Standing more in others' shoes and learning self-interrogation can prevent your colleagues from having hostility towards you. Most of the times, if you don't adapt to office politics, it's not because there is something wrong with your colleagues, but probably with yourself. 2) Striving to adapt Improve one's own "immunity". Your colleagues' attitudes towards you are often just your own assumptions. Being overly sensitive to others' attitudes will easily hurt yourself. If you respond with the same attitude, it will form a vicious circle. Any person who enters working position will have yearning and fantasy for new career life, and cold violence will pour a bucket of cold water on us, which is normal. Cold violence cannot absolutely disappear. We need to have this awareness. 3) Actively dealing with Don't wait until you can't bear it to solve it, but when you suffer frustration for the first time in your career, you should consider solutions actively, at least you should have an active awareness. Active communication is especially important. In fact, whoever takes the initiative first is the winner in the battle of cold violence. This communication must be positive, not for communication while communicating, discussing problems frankly. 4) Do not do unto others what you do not wish done to yourself You dislike being neglected and excluded, similarly, others also dislike it. To avoid office cold violence, first, don't let yourself become "the offender". 5) Keeping optimistic Emotions are infectious, so is happiness. In an environment full of pleasant atmosphere, who still has mood to plot intrigues? Facing workplace cold violence with equanimity, non-resistance is the best resistance. Before we figure out what's going on, we'd better ignore it first, do what we should do, and don't take it to heart. Always keep optimistic attitude. 6) Thinking win-win Interest conflicts are one of the causes of company politics. We know that someone wins and necessarily someone loses. We worry about others' winning, because it may imply that we are the losers. In fact, the world is not like this. Try thinking about the problem from the perspective of "how to achieve win-win in the same situation", which requires you to understand others' interests in this situation first, secondly understand your own interests, and try to make both parties accept and benefit mutually. 7) Understanding people first, then seeking to be understood. It's strange that once one party feels that he is understood, he will become more open to you. Without mutual understanding, it is difficult to reach a win-win situation. The above are the tricks to deal with unofficial rules in the workplace prepared by the workplace forum, let's learn together. Data transferred from: http://orange.hitvs.cn/bbs/BBSTopicRead-lounge-379697-1.htm