Rednet Changsha, January 7 (Rolling News Reporter of Xiaoxiang Morning Post, Li Rong) - Men fear choosing the wrong career, and women fear marrying the wrong man. When it comes to finding a partner, one must be vigilant. If you end up with someone who has a dark psyche, you don't know how things will turn out. Xiaomi is now worried about this very issue. After proposing a breakup, her boyfriend first demanded a breakup fee, then stole her QQ account, using it as leverage, and even threatened her, saying it was just the beginning.
She initially agreed to break up but wanted a breakup fee
I met him online, and we've been together for over a year. We usually just exchanged text messages and made phone calls. Although he wasn't very ambitious, he treated me well and sacrificed a lot for me, which is why we stayed together for so long.
Recently, he went to work in another place. Even though the distance wasn't far, my feelings for him gradually faded. Sometimes, I didn't even want to answer his calls or reply to his messages. Lately, I've become too lazy to deal with him, but he kept texting and calling me, asking all sorts of questions and being overly controlling. I felt like I was about to go crazy, so I proposed a breakup. He said that breaking up was fine, but I had to pay him a breakup fee.
Then he stole my QQ, saying he would make me have no peace
Since he wanted a breakup fee, I asked him how much, but then he said he didn't want to break up anymore. This back-and-forth annoyed me to no end. Then he said he wouldn't let me live in peace. On the morning of the 7th, I found that I couldn't log into QQ, so I used another rarely-used QQ account to log in. Upon inquiry, it turned out he was using my QQ. I immediately realized the situation was serious.
I asked him what he wanted, and he asked if I wanted my QQ back. I said yes, but then he fell silent. I panicked because I've been using this QQ for several years, and many classmates, friends, and relatives are on it. I'm afraid he might say inappropriate things to them, damaging my reputation, and worry about what he might say that could ruin my future. I'm also scared he might spread my photos around. He's studying design, so photo editing is easy for him. If he edits my photos in horrifying ways, I'm really afraid others might think ill of me.
The boyfriend said this was just the beginning
After repeatedly asking him what he wanted, he remained silent. I guessed that on one hand, he wanted to disturb my peace, and on the other hand, he wanted to win me back, preventing us from breaking up. He knew QQ was important to me, so he used it as leverage against me.
In the afternoon of the 7th, he finally spoke, saying this was just the beginning. After hearing him say this, I instantly felt terrified. I can't imagine what else he might do. Now I'm hesitating whether I should temporarily not break up and wait until I get my QQ back before deciding what to do next.
But then again, if he does something similar when we break up next time, what should I do? I'm really nervous.
[Expert Advice]
First retrieve the QQ, then take some preventive measures
Emotional psychology expert at Central South University, Guo Ping: Long-distance relationships rarely lead to happy endings. If two people can't live together, it's better to break up sooner rather than later. It's suggested that Xiaomi temporarily not break up, first retrieve the QQ, then take some preventive measures, such as transferring important contacts from the old QQ to a new one.
On-duty lawyer at Qin Xiyuan United Law Firm stated: QQ numbers belong to virtual property, but there is currently no explicit legal regulation in our country. If Xiaomi's ex-boyfriend uses this to threaten her, harass her normal life, slander her, or post inappropriate photos, disrupting others' normal lives, she can request the public security organs to impose administrative penalties on him. If he infringes upon others' rights to their name, likeness, reputation, or honor, the victim has the right to demand cessation of infringement, restoration of reputation, elimination of influence, apology, and may also claim compensation for damages. In severe cases, it may constitute a criminal offense.
Sandy Love Refuses Chaos
Young people's levels of romance: The first kind is the master, practicing non-action governance, charm irresistible, flowers bloom when they see him, cars lose tires when they see him. An ancient woman once wrote a poem, "Winter thunder roars, summer rain snows, heaven and earth unite, only then dare I sever ties with you," referring to this type of romantic master. The second kind is ordinary people, holding hands and knowing each other's flaws, pulling and tugging, bumping and bruising, love and hate intertwined, but eventually achieving a happy ending or parting amicably, laughing and forgetting each other in the vast sea of humanity. The third kind is unlucky ones; once acquainted, three lifetimes of misfortune ensue, shouting and fighting, seeking death, causing chaos, tears pouring down. Profound memories aren't false, but tragedies shatter oneself.
Xiaomi (a pseudonym), a young woman working in Changsha, proposed a breakup to her ex-boyfriend. He first demanded a breakup fee, then stole her QQ, threatening her by saying it was just the beginning. If what Xiaomi said is true, the legendary unlucky lover is about to appear. A failed romance, demanding the return of valuable items given during the relationship, like bracelets and necklaces, is understandable. However, demanding a breakup fee from an ex-girlfriend is disgraceful. As for stealing someone's QQ, that absolutely crosses ethical boundaries. Xiaomi's concern about having her photos edited and spread around, "making it impossible for me to face people," isn't unfounded.
There happens to be a case that can wake up this love-struck young man. Last October, the "AIDS woman" incident caused a stir online. A woman claimed she had AIDS and posted numerous nude photos, intimate videos, and even included phone numbers of 279 sexual partners online. Police investigation revealed that everything stemmed from the crazed revenge of her ex-boyfriend, and the reason was simply that this unlucky person didn't want to break up. What was the outcome? The woman and her family "couldn't face people," while the man was arrested for suspected crimes and awaited severe legal punishment. Xiaomi's ex-boyfriend, stop, just stop, don't create a situation that can't be resolved. Forced love isn't sweet, nor can it be forced. Doing it the wrong way could land you behind bars.
My favorite actress, Jiang Wenli, repeated yesterday in our newspaper her classic line: "Marriage is like sand in your hand, the tighter you hold it, the more it slips through your fingers." Love is the same. I hope Xiaomi's ex-boyfriend and we can all learn from this. I also want to tell Xiaomi, don't take love too lightly. The internet is full of hidden dangers. First, understand a person clearly before starting to write the "love" word with them. The idea of continuing a relationship just to get the QQ back is quite strange.