A 38-year-old female master's degree holder created the "Chastity Network" which became an overnight sensation, admitting to immense mental pressure. In a special interview, she stated that she could accept a partner who was not a virgin before marriage.
Since February 10th, Tu Shiyou, a 38-year-old female master's degree holder from Wuhan University, has experienced the busiest three days of her life after creating the "Chastity Network" and publicly displaying her own medical certificate proving her virginity. She mentioned, "I don't know what to do every morning after waking up, feeling under great mental pressure with a painful head, mainly due to giving interviews."
Unlike many people in recent years who seek online fame through艳photos or revealing behaviors, Tu Shiyou chose a different path. She used a set of outdated and inappropriate "chastity theories" to explain her actions, even though such behavior still appears unconventional and alternative in the cyber world. During the exclusive interview, Tu Shiyou clearly outlined her conditions for her ideal partner but admitted when asked by the reporter if she required her partner to also adhere to premarital chastity, stating "it's hard to find someone like that," because "I started advocating too late."
Yesterday morning, Tu Shiyou took the call at a net cafe as scheduled. Her self-founded website "Yapin Chastity Network" had been paralyzed due to the sudden surge in visits.
**Question One: Is it for hype?**
"Knows there will be publicity effects but did not expect attacks to come in waves"
Upon logging into "Yapin Chastity Network", one can see a very simple website structure mainly divided into two major modules: "Recent Hot Discussions" and "Premarital Chastity". The content of the recent hot discussions is very eye-catching, including "news focus" topics like "13-year-old girl prostituting at a disco bar", "How happy is a virgin's marriage", and "station announcements" like "Beware! Which types of people are most likely to take away a woman's first time." One can become a website "supporter" by paying 10 yuan via Alipay. As a freelance writer, Tu Shiyou accepted an interview with our newspaper.
*Guangzhou Daily*: Since you studied news, would you have expected such significant attention and response?
*Tu Shiyou*: I had some psychological preparation, but the actual experience these few days is still different from what I anticipated.
I originally hoped to provide positive guidance to society, but I didn't expect so many attacks. My head has been hurting these past two days, I couldn't get out of bed for long periods, and when I did, I just sat there dazedly.
*Guangzhou Daily*: Have you encountered any harassment?
*Tu Shiyou*: Basically no. Mainly many people on QQ want to add me as a friend, affecting my work.
*Guangzhou Daily*: In real life, have your neighbors treated you differently?
*Tu Shiyou*: There are slight differences, but they're still kind. Because they know me well. I think promoting this concept gives me a positive image.
*Guangzhou Daily*: Your website collapsed due to high traffic, and many people think you may profit from it.
*Tu Shiyou*: Website registration is free, everyone can speak freely. However, if you want to become a supporter of the website, you need to pay 10 yuan. This is because I spend a lot of energy providing answers, while also providing materials I personally wrote and authoritative materials from experts.
Even though this is a public welfare act, I cannot continue alone. I hope to accumulate funds for future preparations.
*Guangzhou Daily*: Have you considered why your concept has attracted so much criticism?
*Tu Shiyou*: First, there are some speculations and misunderstandings about me and my actions; secondly, after more than 30 years of reform and opening-up, many people have accepted the idea of sexual openness, so they instinctively reject me; thirdly, it might be because people worry that I cannot achieve this alone, hence having no confidence in me.
**Question Two: Is it for matchmaking?**
"Men with virgin complexes should learn from me"
After graduation, many classmates were assigned to various schools, fell in love, got married, and had children, while Tu Shiyou devoted more energy to studying. She said male classmates had pursued her, but she was too focused on her studies, letting everything in terms of feelings go with the flow.
*Guangzhou Daily*: At 38 years old, do you feel a lot of pressure regarding marriage and relationships?
*Tu Shiyou*: I currently have almost no pressure. If I meet the right person, I will also make efforts to create and seize opportunities.
*Guangzhou Daily*: What kind of person are you looking for?
*Tu Shiyou*: I would choose someone with a master's degree or higher, similar age, decent appearance, healthy physique, and taller than 1.72 meters. There are no requirements in terms of money, but we must truly love each other.
*Guangzhou Daily*: You may not be able to find someone who is also a virgin before marriage.
*Tu Shiyou*: Basically impossible, so I've given up.
*Guangzhou Daily*: Therefore, others might say your concept lacks feasibility.
*Tu Shiyou*: I have already achieved what I advocate, I don't have the right to demand others to do the same, I can only influence them. If men in their thirties could have accepted this concept in their teens, they might be able to achieve it now. I started advocating too late.
*Guangzhou Daily*: You said you will persist on one hand and compromise with reality on the other.
*Tu Shiyou*: I promote this concept after more than 30 years of reform and opening-up, it's impossible for a large number of pure boys and girls in their thirties to suddenly appear. This might only happen in five or ten years.
**Question Three: Being called an "old maid"?**
"You cannot experience my happiness"
"A 38-year-old old maid inherently means failure." For such "attacks," Tu Shiyou appeared quite open-minded.
*Guangzhou Daily*: I saw that you clearly stated in the chastity view published on the website, "Dedicated to advocating premarital chastity for youths under 23." Why this age?
*Tu Shiyou*: Surveys show that the proportion of young men and women aged 23-25 without premarital sexual behavior is already low, so I focus my main energy on the group under 23.
*Guangzhou Daily*: Some netizens say that in today's society, a 38-year-old virgin is actually a failure. What do you think?
*Tu Shiyou*: Everyone's understanding of happiness is different, I cannot experience your happiness, and you cannot experience mine either.
*Guangzhou Daily*: Some experts believe your advocacy conflicts with social reality and lacks operability.
*Tu Shiyou*: I still think it is feasible. On the first day the report came out, over 59% of the people supported me according to Sina.com's survey.
*Guangzhou Daily*: What are your plans for the future?
*Tu Shiyou*: To thank those who support me, I will overcome difficulties and continue operating the website, continuing to uphold this banner, and I don't want to let down their hopes and entrustments.
**Expert**: It's at least a reflection but lacks operability
Director Zheng Zizhen of the Institute of Sociology and Demography of Guangdong Academy of Social Sciences said in an interview with reporters: Now the concept and behavior of sex have deviated too far from tradition. At this point, someone proposing to do such a thing, from a positive perspective, is at least a reflection.
Director Lu Ying of the Center for Women's and Gender Studies at Sun Yat-sen University believes that this is Tu Shiyou's personal choice. Perhaps it is self-admiration, but we should still care about it.
Lu Ying does not encourage premarital sexual behavior, as women are often the ones who suffer harm after premarital sexual behavior, and women should protect themselves. Meanwhile, society should pay more attention to the group of older unmarried women. They shouldn't label these women as "leftover women" beforehand.
Professor Shang Congsheng of Wuhan University expressed to the media that under the current diversified society, Tu Shiyou's advocacy conflicts with social reality. So, although Tu Shiyou's establishment of a website calling for premarital chastity might have good intentions personally, it lacks operability.
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