A wife determines the height of your future career.
I greatly admire the statement made by Phoenix TV's beautiful host Shen Xing during a press interview: A man’s highest taste is reflected in the woman he chooses. Of course, a man's house, car, lighter, and suit can all be part of his taste, but the most essential and truest expression of a man's taste is the kind of woman he chooses.
Choosing the right woman equals choosing the right life. As the saying goes, men fear choosing the wrong industry, and women fear marrying the wrong person. Isn't this also true for men? Hong Yingming, the author of "Cai Gen Tan", once said, "It's better to be deaf than to have a quarrelsome wife!" Intense charm cannot match enduring simplicity, and marriage is the same. The great literary master William Shakespeare wrote numerous wonderful plays in his lifetime, but his views on marriage lacked any romantic color. This is because he was well aware of the difficulties of the path of marriage and understood that life could wear down love.
Living a lifetime, what do we truly need? What we truly need is a good mindset and a leisurely mood. Only those with harmonious families and healthy mindsets possess the conditions for leisure. For example, marrying a good woman can give a man a leisurely mood. So, what kind of woman should one marry to achieve the highest taste?
1. A woman's most important quality should be kindness, and among all virtues, filial piety comes first. How many unfortunate men in the world suffer from the tension between their wives and their own mothers? In fact, handling relationships with elders is not as simple as the word 'filial piety'; it involves many skills and character issues.
2. Virtuousness, this is an age-old female virtue. To be more specific, it means being able to cook, wash clothes, and take care of the family. Even if one has enough money to hire a nanny, a female head of the household is still needed to manage everything.
3. Well-read and polite. This is the new era's requirement for women to keep up with the times. A woman's temperament and upbringing are expressions of her inner richness and what truly sets her apart from others.
4. Thoughtful and tasteful. Being thoughtful makes her uninterested in meddling in other people's gossip; she is always an "insulator." Having taste allows her to uniquely express her own style.
5. Understanding. For men, the most important thing is dignity. She can criticize me at home, but she cannot ridicule or mock me in public. A woman who does not know how to uphold her husband's dignity is a foolish woman.
6. Full trust and relative freedom. Being attracted to new things instead of old ones is actually a human instinct, and no one can guarantee that they will only like one person for a lifetime. I advise all women about to get married to earnestly study "Medical Psychology" and fully understand their husband's habit of gazing at beautiful women in magazines or web pages. Do not nitpick over these subconscious behaviors, otherwise, it will push the marriage towards failure. If he wants to be alone for a while, do not incessantly ask why; instead, offer him a cup of tea and gently close the door.
7. Having a stable income. Women who do not depend on men for survival can achieve independence and self-respect. I agree very much.
8. Not having excessive material desires. I hope my wife is the type who can ride both in a BMW and on a bicycle, stay in five-star hotels and camp tents, endure hardships, and become a superior person.
9. Innocent and childlike. If a man really likes a woman, he should protect her innocence to the greatest extent possible. A woman who has not lost her childlike nature can make long and dull eye contact endlessly enjoyable.
10. Loves reading and music. Loving reading does not mean looking at colorful fashion magazines, and loving music does not mean listening to forgettable pop songs. Classic books and music allow time and the trivialities of life to leave no mark on her soul.
11. Strong work ability and a special skill. Women at work obviously do not have too much time to be suspicious. Having a special skill makes her enjoy herself and control her emotions well. With certain talent and diligence, this is not a problem. More importantly, having an educational gift to teach children well seems crucial.
12. Healthy body and understanding of health preservation methods and basic medical knowledge.
13. A little romance. Married life is a world with colors, vitality, and movement. It is hard to imagine a woman without romance and interest being a good wife.
The above 13 criteria should be complete. Possessing such a woman, even if the sun and moon grow cold and the mountains and grasses wither, the glow of marriage can still warmly burn in the beginning of memory, in any visible and invisible corners...
These standards reflect a comprehensive view of what constitutes a high-quality partner, emphasizing qualities beyond mere physical appearance or material wealth. They underscore the importance of mutual respect, shared values, and emotional intelligence in sustaining a successful and fulfilling marriage.