Psychological tests come from the West, and they are related to people's subconscious. More than 10 years ago, I met a friend who had studied abroad. She told me about a psychological test called "Borrowing a Boat to Cross the River," which she said her teacher taught her when she was studying psychology. Then, I used this test on countless people, and it was always accurate. This is not fortune-telling, but it can help you understand your own needs. Some people will never admit that they are like this, but in reality, they are. I have drawn this picture down, and you can compare and see. But first, you need to listen to the story I am about to tell before we begin.
A man M wants to meet his fiancée F for marriage, but they are separated by a river. M has to borrow a boat to cross the river to see F, so he starts looking for a boat everywhere.
At this time, a woman L happens to have a boat, and M asks L for it. After meeting M, L falls in love with him and asks: I love you, do you love me? M, being honest, says: Sorry, I have a fiancée, I cannot love you. As a result, L refuses to lend the boat to M, reasoning: I love you, but you don't love me, that's unfair, I won't lend it to you!
M feels frustrated and continues to look for a boat. He meets another woman named S and asks her for the boat. S says: I have no problem lending it to you, but there is one condition. I really like you, whether you like me or not is irrelevant, but you must stay with me for a night, otherwise, I won't lend it to you. M feels embarrassed. If neither L nor S lends him the boat, he won't be able to cross the river to meet F. It's rumored that there are only these two boats in this area. For the sake of his fiancée on the other side, he reluctantly agrees to S's request, and as a result, M and S have a night together (NB). The next day, S keeps her promise and lends the boat to M.
After meeting his fiancée F, M constantly feels uneasy. After much deliberation, he finally decides to tell F the story of borrowing the boat from L and S. Unfortunately, F becomes very sad after hearing it and breaks up with M in anger. She thinks M is unfaithful and cannot forgive him. F experiences a breakup and is deeply affected.
At this point, a woman E appears in his life, and they start dating. However, the previous stories keep haunting him. E asks M if there is anything he wants to tell her, and M recounts everything about his interactions with L, S, and F. After hearing the story, E says: I won't mind, these things have nothing to do with me.
The story is over. Now comes the question: Please rank these people in order based on who you think is the best, second, third, fourth, fifth? This includes the man M as well. I suggest you don't overthink it, nor do you need to consider public opinion. Just go with who you think did the right thing.
Please choose your answer here before scrolling down to see the answers.
Answers are actually quite simple. They reveal what you subconsciously desire most. Not knowing what you want is a common issue because everything seems important, and giving up any of them feels improper. However, everyone's life pursuit varies greatly. When you see others pursuing their careers, you may admire them and want to be like that, but somehow you can't achieve it; when you see others having happy marriages, you want that too, but achieving it isn't easy. This has less to do with luck and more to do with what you need, which determines a lot.
I know some people might feel disappointed after seeing this answer, thinking it's just this, what does it explain? Although the answer seems simple, it actually reflects both your values and predicts your future life.
Let me share two stories. These two people are quite typical examples, and they both took this test. One is a former member of my band, the bassist. At that time, he wrote down: M, F, S, E, L. He refused to admit this ranking because at that time, he was still struggling hard for his music dream. For him to admit that he loved money would be too shameful, let alone being a marriage enthusiast? But I found out that he was indeed such a person. Whenever he earned a little performance fee, he quickly sent it home. There was even an amusing incident where he made 400 yuan, and he borrowed 100 yuan from others to make it a whole amount to buy sheep placenta. Loving money is not a bad thing, but denying it is. Many years later, the other members of the band went their separate ways, and he stayed in the industry, but became an accompanist in a karaoke bar, making a lot of money by running around venues every day. It's said that he also got married quickly and had a child, becoming a responsible husband. Music was just a tool for him to earn money, and he lived a pretty good life. Later, I met him once, and he was full of complaints. Although he had bought a car, his dreams were shattered long ago. He had neither a career nor love, just a prosperous life. I think this is his life trajectory, and he was still pursuing what he wanted.
Another example is a female host from Tianjin. At that time, we didn't have much to talk about, so we just played this game. Her choice was S, M, L, F, E. When I told her what these symbols represented, she felt a bit upset and said it was wrong. Why did she put S first? Because she thought S was fairer and simpler than L. F had too many issues, E was too cold, and M was nice but too indecisive. Everyone understands problems differently, and this precisely reveals your subconscious. Many years later, I met someone in Beijing who knew her. When we talked about this female host, he said: What a pity, she stopped hosting early, messed around with a lot of men in her unit, and then got fired. Later, she married a rich man.
Looking at my friends who asked me about this test, most of them chose E as the top priority, indicating that a career is still very important for many people. Also, regarding distance, if you choose career and money close to each other, it's normal, as these two are related. But if you place love as the first and family as the last, it implies that you may not necessarily rely on the form of marriage. These combinations can be inferred. I think this test indeed has strong predictive power. You will subconsciously pursue what you want, and this can be traced back to your name and destiny chart.
M - Money (Money)
L - Love (Love)
S - Sex (Sex)
F - Family (Family)
E - Enterprise/Career (Enterprise)