Unrequited love is when a person falls in love with another person unilaterally, without reciprocation. Not returning unrequited love is of course not out of love. In youth, boys and girls are likely to develop an inexplicable fascination for the opposite sex: He/she may be a classmate, a teacher, a neighbor, a stranger on the bus one day, or even the name of a singer, a particular athlete. This youthful age of unrequited love only has the courage to admire from afar, but does not approach courtship; whenever they face each other directly, it will cause nervousness, blushing, and tongue-tied. This kind of youthful unrequited love is a very common thing, almost everyone has experienced it once, twice, or even several times. However, if unrequited love persists into adulthood, the psychological implications of one-sided love can become more serious. For example, some people who are not loved in return may feel despair and disappointment, fading back into Buddhism, dressed as a monk in Nepal, or becoming a priest or nun, living a life of celibacy. A more serious consequence is that the one-sided love transforms into hatred due to being rejected and excluded, leading to thoughts of revenge, or even attempting to hurt each other. Examples of this are not uncommon in the world. The story described here actually happened, involving one woman's blind love and another man's unrequited love. Compared to ordinary cases of blind love, these two stories are more specialized and intense, thus worth considering. Let us look at a woman's unrequited love story.
Ms. Wang, originally from Shanghai, lived long in New York and was a wealthy girl. Her fiancé was studying in the U.S., and the two planned to hold a grand wedding in Shanghai after he returned. Ms. Wang had prepared all matters related to the marriage, including her wedding dress. However, unexpectedly, Ms. Wang suddenly received a letter from her fiancé, announcing that he had already married another woman in the United States and intended to stay there permanently. The news of her fiancé's change of heart deeply saddened Ms. Wang. But she had a younger brother, 12 years her junior, their only son Wang, whose father had died prematurely, leaving him responsible for supporting his sister. With the heavy responsibility of caring for her younger brother, Ms. Wang did not commit suicide. Besides her family’s wealth beyond Ms. Wang, she was also known for her noble appearance. She found it easy to identify suitable marriage prospects, but her heart was entirely taken by her changed fiancé, and she could not tolerate any other men. She was also a very conceited woman, psychologically unable to accept the insult of her fiancé abandoning her. As a result, she sought solace in a painful psychological approach. She retreated to the dark basement where she buried her sad memories. She forced herself to believe that her fiancé had not changed his mind, and as long as she waited patiently, he would eventually come back to marry her one day. She placed a large photo of her fiancé on her bedside dresser and hung her wedding dress in a special glass cabinet in the most prominent place in her bedroom. Every day, she dressed luxuriously, waiting at home, waiting. She would often suddenly exclaim: "XX (her fiancé) might enter the door at this moment!" In other words, Ms. Wang was somewhat psycho.
Many years later, her younger brother had grown up. Soon, the civil war broke out. Ms. Wang, with her wealth, emigrated to the U.S. with her brother and settled in New York. In her new home bedroom, her "fiancé's" photograph and the unworn wedding dress retained the same important position. She still dressed luxuriously every day, patiently waiting for her "fiancé." Ms. Wang never married; she would not allow her brother to marry his girlfriend multiple times and destroy the latter’s love. Her brother, by nature cowardly, surrendered to his sister each time, resulting in complete control by his sister. Thus, siblings lived together in one house, through their investment lives, living comfortably. In their room, it seemed as if time had stopped, all silent, only broken by occasional sounds from the siblings' mouths. Ms. Wang lived to be 92 years old before passing away. Her life of unrequited love remained a virgin. Before her death, according to Ms. Wang's request, she wore that wedding dress decades ago, holding her faded "fiancé's" photo in her hands, and was buried with it. Her funeral would be tantamount to waiting for the wedding of a lifetime.
Let us now look at a man's unrequited love story. A and B were a pair of friends, both falling in love with a woman. A won the woman's heart, and they got married. The woman had a good impression of B, but not enough to say that just because B was a friend, so she treated B kindly as a friend and got along well with him. B was extremely jealous. When he saw the woman meeting and heating up with A, the situation would rain, he would be jealous. His jealousy burned stronger and emitted thick black smoke until it finally reached intellectual brilliance. B mistook the woman's agreeable attitude toward him for love, believing that the woman should belong to him, and that someone sowed discord, driving the woman to snatch her away. Thus, A became a big obstacle, and as long as this major obstacle was eradicated, this unrequited love with the woman would bring her into his arms. B completely lost his mind, carefully planning, and came up with a deadly trap, murdering his friend. After the murder, B was not suspected of the murder. At this point, he thought love had eliminated the obstacles, and the road had been cleared. So he began courting the woman, but she said frankly: she did not love him. B twisted the facts again, believing that the woman's refusal was only a means to incite his passion. So he doubled his fierce pursuit, making the woman desperate. The woman finally could not stand B's twists, sternly telling him not to come back and harass her because she had a new boyfriend. B became furious, threatening the woman: If she loved another man, he would first kill her, then commit suicide. The woman refused and bid farewell to B, who tracked the woman on the street during the day, kept her at the front door, peeping at her actions. The woman, flustered and fearful, ran to the police. The police began investigating B's background, and finally revealed the investigation, finding that the murder of A was committed by B. Once made public, B was arrested and convicted.
The two tragic stories mentioned above have unrequited love as their source of disaster. It shows that if unrequited love deteriorates into obsession, like being possessed, they lose their senses, having devastating effects on human life, akin to suffering from an incurable disease in spirit.