A woman may not be beautiful, may not be pretty, may even lack much in the way of grace, but she cannot lack upbringing. Upbringing is a kind of latent virtue; women with upbringing will not lose their luster with the passage of time, but instead become increasingly captivating. Wisdom is an indispensable nutrient for beauty... In the late eighteenth century, statesman and thinker Edmund Burke wrote: "Upbringing is more important than law... They act according to their own nature, either promoting morality, or fostering morality, or completely destroying morality."
In ancient times, a man with upbringing was described as "a humble gentleman, gentle like jade," and a woman with upbringing was praised as "knowledgeable and reasonable, gentle and virtuous." To insult a man for lacking upbringing, nothing was harsher than calling him a "bastard," and to criticize a woman for lacking feminine virtue, nothing was worse than calling her a "she-devil." Look at the difference between the two: one is so elegant, the other so vulgar.
A woman may not be beautiful, may not be pretty, may even lack much in the way of grace, but she cannot lack upbringing. Upbringing is a latent virtue, it does not attract attention directly, but for us in this mundane world, life needs women with upbringing, families need women with upbringing.
What is upbringing? Upbringing is not doing whatever one pleases, being self-centered; it is treating others well, treating oneself well, earnestly paying attention to others, sincerely listening to others, truly feeling for others. Respecting others is respecting oneself. True upbringing stems from a heart that loves oneself and others. "Do not do to others what you would not have them do to you" is the best interpretation of upbringing.
An important measure is that a woman's upbringing determines the cultivation and future of a nation and ethnicity. I especially want to tell my female friends that female cultivation and charm require heartfelt appreciation and insight; it is the result of a woman's refinement. Through continuous refinement, every woman can become more charming today than yesterday, tomorrow more charming than today. More importantly, whether one knows the importance of charm, whether one is willing to continuously learn and enhance methods of charm, whether one can make enhancing charm a main part of life and make long-term efforts for it, will significantly impact one's career and life.
Having upbringing is an expression of moral beauty; it becomes increasingly radiant with the passage of time and the purification of the soul. There is a saying: "Not being beautiful is something women absolutely cannot tolerate, but lacking cultivation is something men absolutely cannot tolerate." I somewhat agree with this view. Many women look very beautiful, but their rude behavior often makes men wary or even repulsed; on the contrary, women who are plain in appearance but rich in cultivation in speech and conduct often win men's hearts.
Women with upbringing are as quiet as orchids, exuding fragrance all around. Time may take away a woman's youth, but it cannot take away the beauty that emerges after years of accumulation. This beauty is the cultivation and wisdom achieved by women after years of trials, like the fruit fragrance permeating autumn, radiating outward from within.
Women with upbringing are like trickling streams, allowing those around them to be refreshed. Cultivation is an experience of life, a profound realization, a state of calmness in life's understanding, a simpler and purer mindset.
Women with upbringing do not lose their luster with the passage of time, but instead become increasingly dazzling and enchanting. Wisdom is an indispensable nutrient for beauty; for women, wisdom is universal love and benevolence, confidence-filled maturity, emotional richness and independence, non-harsh judgment of all things, and more importantly, the wise balance of understanding between gain and loss. Women with cultivation and command make beauty manifest differently at different moments, exuding infinite charm throughout their lives. Women should always be a forever-bright landscape, laughing through the years, remaining beautiful...
Being as warm as spring to friends.
The level of women's upbringing is an important standard for measuring the overall social civility and cultivation. Because women are mothers, women nurture everyone, women bring us into this world. No matter how fast society develops, no matter how many roles women can play now, the most important role of women has always been mothers. All mothers hope that their children become people with upbringing, people respected by others. And if the mother lacks upbringing, will the child have it? Therefore, women, especially those who wish to be mothers, cannot lack upbringing.
Men usually respect women who are rich in cultivation and inner qualities, and often try to get close to them, maintain some intimacy, and take pride in it. They are infatuated and attached to such relationships. If conditions allow, marrying such a woman and spending a lifetime together would be one of my life dreams.