Regardless of whether it is in real life or on the internet, with people's increasingly open attitudes towards sex, premarital cohabitation seems to be socially accepted, and post-marital sexual behavior is no longer a hidden matter. With the tide of such sexual concepts rolling in, many girls no longer consider post-marital sexual behavior as a significant event, even engaging in video chats. However, if you pay attention, you often find some girls, especially on famous communities in Shenzhen (http://www.luowushipin.com), who end up in bed with others. When these relationships eventually lead to them being together with the men they slept with, they suddenly cry out that they've been taken advantage of, or worse, that they've been deceived.
In the end: This world is free. If you get into bed with someone, chances are you willingly did so. Even if a man uses deceptive means to get you into bed, at the moment you climb into bed, your mind gradually loses control under the influence of physiological pleasure. This point doesn't need much explanation; generally, people understand that physiological drive is one of humanity's strongest motivations. When physiological desire drives you to get into bed, either use superhuman willpower to control yourself, break free from his embrace, and run away alone—then you won't regret it later. If you lack the ability to control your own thoughts and act under the command of physiological impulses, ending up in bed with someone else, then please take responsibility for what happens afterward. Don't simply blame the man.
Both women and men are intelligent beings capable of standing upright on Earth. Getting into bed is a two-person affair. Once you're off the bed, don't complain about who lost what; each person should be responsible for their own actions.
Moreover, after two people have been in bed together, if certain issues arise leading to a breakup, the girl often cries out that she's been wronged, feeling regretful and blaming the boy. I want to ask: Girl, what reason do you have to love someone just because you got into bed with them? If you didn’t consent, and the other party forced you into sexual activity, that’s rape. You can seek legal recourse. If you weren’t forced, then please stop blaming the man so easily. Instead of blaming others, reflect on yourself.
You've already done it, both physically and emotionally, and now you regret it? Crying over spilled milk won't help anyone. If you regret it now, what can you do to fix it?
Furthermore, I don't understand why, when it comes to getting into bed, both men and women are treated equally, yet there's always talk of who benefits more from whom? If we admit that men benefit, then women place themselves in the position of being used. The same sex, the same experience, the same process, the same enjoyment—why do women shout about regretting it afterward? I hate hearing that men take advantage of women. Why does everyone assume that getting into bed is like being consumed by men? When he enjoys you, you also enjoy him—it's mutual. So why, when it comes time to part ways, do women suddenly shout about losing out? I want to ask: What exactly have you lost? If anything, you've lost out due to outdated thinking. Talking about virginity complexes boils down to viewing women as consumable goods. Ironically, it's precisely those women shouting about being taken advantage of who see themselves as men's expendable items.
Looking back, if we define getting into bed as mutual consumption, then while he consumes you, aren't you also consuming him? It's a mutual process. Where is the loss? Severe ideological limitations have long bound women. Sex itself is a natural physiological need for humans, the same for both men and women. During the process of making love, both parties are enjoying it. Women often demand that men take responsibility for sexual behavior. But ask this: As adults, both enjoying the act, why should only the man bear the consequences?
Sometimes, I think some women's psychology has problems. They try to lock in love by offering themselves, following GP logic. In this world, there are plenty of beautiful women around. If that man merely wanted physical pleasure, there are plenty of women prettier than you on every street corner. If there's no love and you still willingly go to bed with him, then don't measure the outcome using the standards of love.
Truly speaking, love isn't about gain or loss; love is about giving. If you gave your so-called chastity out of love for him, there's no room for regret. Sex is meant to be enjoyed, and your body is meant to be cherished. Once you've done it, don't talk about regretting it. If you regret it, don't do it. If you've acted like a prostitute, don't pretend to be virtuous. If you want to be virtuous, don't act like a prostitute. If you regret it, then loosen your belt right now.
Men may try to deceive you into bed, but if you know someone is trying to trick you and you still go to bed with them, how can you claim to have been taken advantage of afterward? Aren't there plenty of flowers on the side of the road waiting to be picked?
In this world, intelligence determines everything. If you lack self-respect and get deceived, it's your own fault. No one believes someone held a gun to her head to force her into bed. Everyone must be responsible for their own actions, so there's no need to shout about regret afterward!
Either open your eyes wide, or loosen your pants. In this world, apart from taking responsibility for yourself, no one else is obligated to take responsibility for you!
Finally, I just want to say one thing: Woman, if you cannot resolve your love and hatred after getting into bed, then at least resolve your thoughts afterward. The act of getting into bed is equal for both men and women. Don't cry about being taken advantage of afterward.
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