If you want to attract gentlemen who are elegant, charming, and courteous, you yourself should strive to become a lady who is elegant, charming, and graceful. Just like in other aspects of life, sexuality should also have its own etiquette.
I am not an expert in sexology, but as a woman, I do have some opinions on how one should conduct themselves in this area. Some might say, "Where is there room for etiquette during the heat of passion and climax?" I disagree. Like any other form of etiquette, sexual courtesy must begin with oneself, so that it can then be extended to others.