Many men with erectile dysfunction (ED) cannot accept the reality. On the other hand, when a wife faces her husband's inability to maintain an erection, she may only respond with complaints and harsh words. So, whose fault is it when a man experiences ED? I will provide a dialectical analysis for everyone here.
1. Are women victims or culprits?
The most crucial and essential aspect of sexual activity for women does not necessarily lie in achieving orgasm. A woman’s orgasm is neither an inevitable result of every sexual encounter nor should it be used as a standard to measure a man's performance during sex. However, more and more women are relentlessly pursuing this unrealistic goal, forcing men to bear immense psychological pressure as they approach the bed. As sexologists have pointed out: "Modern women are educated sexual consumers who believe they have the right to sexual satisfaction and will actively demand it, becoming aggressive in their pursuit. This often causes unease among men, who worry about whether they can meet women's expectations, which is usually the main cause of ED."
2. "Need" or "task"? Men have something to say:
In the world of men, sexual function is almost as important as life itself. It is difficult to imagine a man calmly accepting sexual impotence, especially when such impotence stems from an embarrassing reason. Apart from gradually sinking deeper into despair, they have no choice. According to traditional concepts, women play a passive role, so men's sexual functions are unconditionally accepted without comparison. In reality, men's sexual functions are gradually weakening. Therefore, when women suddenly become the active party, men's physical and mental states cannot handle it. As men, we must first change our perception that women are no longer the secondary role in sexuality. The idea of obedient, compliant women following orders no longer exists.
3. What should men with ED do?
A. Sex is always a matter between two people. In terms of sex, there are only mentors, not experts. Sex is not a game that can be perfectly combined according to instructions.
B. Sex is not a task meant to satisfy men or women. Running with targets versus strolling in the garden has different effects on the body, and only you know best and have the authority to speak on this.
C. Sex should be a perfect release of physiological desires and a complete relaxation of the mind. During its execution, one must consider its rationality rather than its purpose.
D. Just as there are no identical men and women, there is no identical sex. Since it happens where no one sees, there is no need to harm oneself for non-existent standards.
E. Everyone's sexual peak has its own standard. Pointless competition is akin to playing with one's health.
F. Do not engage in sex without a relaxed mindset. Crack sunflower seeds gently and use your teeth for hazelnuts.
Therefore, I believe that male ED should be faced together by couples. Do not place excessive mental pressure on your husband. Take the initiative to visit a reputable urology hospital to pave the way for your husband. Understand the related condition and help your man regain his former vigor.
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