Speaking of violent behavior, many people will think of the scene of fighting with punches and kicks. But in recent years, mental violence is like "a soft knife that kills without spilling blood", hurting more and more people. Here I provide a few cases for everyone's reference.
1. Strict Parents Are Also Violent
Parents often impose emotional violence on their children unintentionally. Some parents still hold the educational view of "strict father and filial child" and are strict with their children. Other parents are busy with their careers, providing their children with superior material conditions, but neglecting parent-child communication.
In order to avoid parental emotional violence, first of all, parents should be prepared mentally and take responsibility. They should also understand the main psychological characteristics of children at different psychological age stages and know about their own child's temperament and personality traits. In addition, learning communication skills with children is also important. Respect your child's right to know and encourage their participation awareness.
2. Ignoring Each Other Tortures Partners
In the eyes of outsiders, couples have a happy and harmonious life - they have stable jobs, their husbands are government officials, and they have a comfortable family environment. However, some people revealed their pain to psychologists: her husband has almost not spoken to her for half a year. When they meet at home, it's like meeting a stranger, never greeting each other. Even when they talk, his words are rude, like a knife straight into her heart. As a result, she developed depression and recently reached the point where she cannot live and work normally.
A social survey conducted by the China Law Society on the current situation of domestic violence nationwide showed that in families with conflicts, 88% would experience mutual ignoring between spouses, over 30% would leave angrily, slam doors or throw things, and 48% of families would involve mutual insults.
There is no love or hate without cause. The reason why there is family emotional violence is due to "hidden injuries" such as incompatible personalities, different family backgrounds, extramarital affairs, and disharmonious sex lives, which lead to one party breaking off emotionally from the other. Yet, due to objective reasons, divorce is not possible, and because of self-restraint, physical violence is not an option. Therefore, this more "sophisticated" way is used to torture the partner. Surveys show that emotional violence is more common in families of highly educated intellectuals, and women are more likely to become victims. However, in recent years, "wives being too nagging" has become a point of complaint for men regarding emotional violence.
If emotional violence occurs between spouses, how should it be dealt with? Experts say that first of all, stay calm and don't shout loudly. Then calmly analyze the reasons and initiate communication with your spouse, gradually and sincerely engaging in dialogue.