Premature ejaculation: what you don't know

1. Premature ejaculation occurs after a long period without sexual intercourse, leading to concerns about sexual dysfunction: In fact, there is an inverse relationship between the speed of ejaculation and the length of time between sexual activities. That is, frequent sexual activity with short intervals leads to slower ejaculation. Conversely, infrequent sexual activity, especially during prolonged periods of "sexual hunger," can lead to heightened sexual excitement, resulting in quicker ejaculation. Therefore, occasional premature ejaculation due to a long absence of sexual activity should not be considered indicative of sexual dysfunction.

2. Believing that premature ejaculation inevitably leads to erectile dysfunction: The pathogenesis of premature ejaculation and erectile dysfunction are different, so they do not have a causal relationship. However, some patients who experience long-term premature ejaculation may later develop erectile dysfunction due to psychological factors. Long-term premature ejaculation can cause frustration and anxiety, leading to tension, stress, and worry during sexual activity. These psychological factors can easily trigger erectile dysfunction. If further compounded by ridicule, sarcasm, or blame from a partner, it can exacerbate psychological trauma and worsen erectile dysfunction.

3. Comparing oneself to others and assuming faster ejaculation equals premature ejaculation: This is a major misconception. Such comparisons are unnecessary because each person's sexual physiology is different, and their sexual experiences and frequency may vary. There is no basis for comparison, so it should be avoided.

4. Viewing inability to induce female orgasm as equivalent to premature ejaculation: Male and female sexual function differs, characterized by "male fast, female slow." Men tend to reach erection quickly and climax shortly thereafter, while women generally require more time, sometimes even longer than fifteen minutes, to reach orgasm. This is a natural difference, so it is common for men to ejaculate before their partners reach orgasm. In such cases, it is at most a matter of sexual harmony and coordination during intercourse.

5. Believing that early-stage marital premature ejaculation will persist throughout life: Premature ejaculation is common during the early stages of marriage due to several reasons. First, sexual excitement is often heightened during this phase, with high anticipation and curiosity, making it easier to stimulate ejaculation. Second, the accumulation of semen in the reproductive organs during the pre-marriage period can create a sense of fullness, leading to quicker ejaculation upon engaging in sexual activity. Third, couples are still adjusting to each other’s preferences and rhythms, which can result in less-than-ideal sexual performance. Fourth, there may be some degree of mental and psychological tension, such as wondering if one can perform well, if the method is correct, if the partner is satisfied, or if past masturbation habits will interfere. These mental factors can disrupt sexual function, making occasional premature ejaculation understandable.