Some people might say, "Then why not observe more carefully and consider all aspects before marriage? Wouldn't that prevent divorce?" But that is easier said than done. Without truly living together, no matter how long a couple has dated, they are only seeing surface phenomena and cannot find the true feelings and emotions between a man and woman.
The feeling between lovers before and after intimacy can be different: some feel immense happiness and love each other even more; others may suddenly fall into despair and lose all interest. These feelings cannot be experienced without a trial marriage. A person's habits throughout the four seasons, their manners, personality, interests, ideals, careers, etc., cannot all be revealed in a short period of time. They need to be observed over a certain period. I think there should be at least a year of observation.
Some would say this is immoral and if they break up, it might hurt one party. Others may think it provides an opportunity for unscrupulous people to toy with the opposite sex. However, if you willingly choose to live together, you must also be willing and happy to do so. Otherwise, you could break up. If you have found happiness, then how can you claim to be deceived? If the other person loses interest in you, even if you were married, would you find happiness? Therefore, it is better to discover incompatible feelings during the trial marriage stage and break up rather than marry and then divorce. Of course, careful consideration should also be given before entering a trial marriage.
Others might say that once married, with legal constraints, it isn’t easy to divorce, and the other party will have to consider personal, family, and societal impacts and won't easily divorce. I believe this would be even more painful, tragic, and unhappy. The law can only regulate marriage, not the feelings between two people. Moreover, the marriage law clearly stipulates that a marriage without feelings is immoral.
After saying all this, a trial marriage is actually a good way to reduce pain and loss for both parties. A marriage without feelings is the greatest suffering.
People are emotional beings, all with the desire for a better life. If, after a period of trial marriage, you feel that the other person is an inseparable part of your life, someone you never want to leave, and when they appear, your life is filled with joy and you feel like the happiest person in the world, then you will surely wish to get married. Because both physically and mentally, you have reached the highest level of satisfaction and attraction.
But if you cannot accept the other person, don't force it. There will be no happiness, and it would be immoral. We must dare to pursue, but we must also dare to let go.