The boss revealed it's too difficult to avoid having feelings with the female secretary!

It has been six years since I started my own business. I have set up three companies. The first one was engaged in home furnishings import and export and exhibitions. As it developed well, I then started the Yimai DM magazine. Later, seeing the good development of the network, I began to build a website.

Although I like the feeling of working hard, my energy is limited after all, and since I haven't studied much, I can't keep up with a lot of knowledge.

The first time I hired a secretary was when I was doing a home furnishing exhibition in Frankfurt. Since my English wasn't good at that time and it was difficult for me to communicate with foreigners, I recruited a translator secretary in Beijing. During the more than a month of the exhibition in Frankfurt, we worked together all day. She taught me English during our spare time. Although my English level improved rapidly, the attraction between us also grew increasingly. By the time the exhibition was over, many people had already sensed something. In order not to affect the work, I dismissed her two weeks after returning to Beijing.

Due to the busy work, the office gradually formed a secretarial department for me, consisting of one chief assistant secretary and three ordinary secretaries.

The chief secretary is equivalent to a full-time secretary, involved in everything and managing everything. The others include a life secretary, an information secretary, and a finance secretary.

We make plans together every day and go on business trips together. Actually, I have good self-control, but there are still some rumors spreading to my family.

My wife and I met before I started my business, and we went through many tough times together. Therefore, she is very important to me. After knowing these things, she started demanding to work in the company. At first, I didn't quite agree, but she kept arguing with me every day at home. Helpless, I had to add a position of executive vice president for her in the company.

At the beginning, everything was fine. But whenever I went on a business trip, she would talk to my secretaries repeatedly, causing a lot of complaints.

People tend to make mistakes easily when their emotions fluctuate. Although I am strong, I couldn't bear the irritation brought by the persistent family war and the dual pressure from work. Finally, during a business trip to Hong Kong, I fell into the tender embrace of my chief secretary. The secret and stimulating relationship, free from the pressure at home, brought a relaxed two-person space into my life. Business trips became more frequent.

I thought I was being very secretive, but women's intuition is naturally sharp, or rather, women's sensitivity to extramarital affairs is absolutely lethal. My wife quickly found out about our affair. Several big arguments in the company completely lost us our reason, affecting the company's business in the process. In just half a year, we lost over 10 million yuan worth of foreign orders. Enraged, we finally walked down the path of divorce.

Later, I exchanged part of my shares for money as payment to my ex-wife and began living in the office, spending night after night on sofas in different offices of the three companies.

I am very troubled, and most of my friends know about this. I have communicated with them about this issue. They said either find a married woman to be a secretary or hire a male assistant. But for me, hiring a married woman is impractical because I often need to travel on business, and it's inevitable for the secretary to follow. Short-term trips might be okay, but if it lasts long, no husband would be willing.

As for a male assistant, I've considered it too. However, in many social occasions, going with several men would definitely be impolite. Moreover, I don't consider myself particularly handsome. If I hire a very handsome assistant, wouldn't he overshadow me? And if he's unattractive, it would feel awkward for me. Haha.

Now, I am slowly getting rid of the side effects brought by the divorce, and my work is gradually getting back on track. I have also tried hiring new secretaries, but for some unknown reasons, any relationship lasting over two months starts to get a bit ambiguous. I wonder if it's due to the inherent maternal love of women or if I'm just irresistibly attractive to them.

I live and work cautiously, trying my best to keep a distance from the secretaries. It's really exhausting.

I don't know if any of you have similar experiences. How did you handle it? Any advice would be appreciated.