Love first or sex first? China Daily Website Global Online News: In "Lust, Caution", Eileen Chang wrote: "The way to a woman's heart is through her vagina". Don't say it was shocking in her time, even now it is quite stunning, one sentence tears apart the age-old label of female virtue and morality. Originally, women are also sexual beings. We'll see who will still say that men think with their lower body? However, this is also quite awkward.