Why Women Are Prone to Nuptial Night Phobia

by lonewolf on 2009-01-10 22:10:42

I've known my husband for eight years, and just half a month ago, we got married. These eight years have not been easy; we've gone through a lot to finally be together. Over these eight years of dating, even though we sometimes had physical urges, maybe because I'm too traditional, bound by the education I received growing up, we never engaged in sexual activity. On our wedding night, I had my period, so nothing happened that night. A few days later, after my period ended, we tried... but for some reason, whether it's because I was nervous or something else, I was always afraid. And he, since I am his first love and he is still a virgin, he doesn't know how either... So things have dragged on until today, and we're both in pain. I know this can't continue, but it seems like I can't muster up the courage. I don't even know what I'm afraid of. The other day, I even got drunk, hoping that being tipsy would help me give myself to him, but even then, no matter how much I drank, I remained sober enough to still feel afraid. What should I do? Is there something wrong with me?