Love is not like taking exams at school, pursuing a person is not about how much you have devoted.
If we take what you give as the X-axis and take others' responses as the Y-axis to draw a curve,
you will find that after a fixed value the marginal diminishing rate will rise at an incredible speed.
Why do I get only cold responses when I call her everyday and show my concern?
Why does she always keep a distance from me when we hang out with a group of friends?
Why can't I obtain even a bit of deserved position in her heart despite my best efforts for her good?
I said: "If you care too much, you will end up getting nothing."
When you care too much about a person, there is less room in your heart for other things.
All you think about is her, thinking all the time about what you can do for her.
Then, you lose yourself and become someone who lives for others.
You no longer have your own life, no longer have anything different from the other party.
Every word you say, you are very careful, expecting a good response.
Every thing you do, you think over and over again, hoping that she will be moved by you.
Then you will find that there are fewer topics to talk about, and it's no longer as happy and free as before when you were just friends.
A casual sentence she says, or a paragraph of mood on her blog, can affect all your nerves, sometimes making you extremely happy,
but most of the time it makes you absent-minded for a whole day.
As a result, she begins to feel pressured.
Life is something that adapts to changes easily.
It's like soaking your feet in hot water, after a while it goes from being a little too hot to comfortably warm.
At first, when you treat her well, the feeling is very distinct and strong.
She will be very happy and very grateful.
But if the frequency is too high and the intensity is too great,
it's like sitting on a massage chair for too long.
The comfortable feeling disappears,
and instead comes the need to calm down for a while.
If at this point you continue to force the issue,
the final outcome will be to annoy or even make her hate you.
"Let go to gain is the most sophisticated technique,"
probably everyone has heard this until they're sick of it.
You know, I know, but we just can't do it.
There's no way not to be good to her.
The more we care about a person, the harder it is to control ourselves.
Either we are overly good to her, or we sulk and force ourselves to stay away and play dumb.
So, the simplest method is to not care.
Be good to yourself, strive hard to pursue your ideals,
continuously enrich yourself, prepare for your future.
Not doing well in studies? Go to the library and study more books.
Not handsome enough? Go to the gym and turn yourself into a sunny guy.
Think your eloquence is not good enough, not smooth enough in social interactions? Then join clubs and train yourself.
These things will keep you busy.
Then, place her in the second or even third priority in your heart.
You will find that everything becomes simpler.
It's not to say that two people will definitely have a result,
but you start to be able to transcend this quagmire, and look at the relationship between each other with a more objective and accurate perspective.
You no longer get depressed easily, and you are no longer led around by the nose by the other party.
Because you know that the world is not made up of her alone.
Even if you fail, there are still many goals worth pursuing.
Then, cherish the time spent together.
When you're together, you can use all your strength to be good to her, let her feel like she's basking in the spring breeze.
And during normal times, devote 100% of your effort to your own goals, not for others, but only for yourself.
Very relaxed, you don't have to worry about when to be good to her, or how to increase the opportunities to spend time together.
Let things take their natural course, you will definitely be cherished, and will not be taken for granted.
Finally,
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If you succeed, congratulations, may lovers eventually become partners.
If you fail, it's a bit regretful, maybe you're not suitable for each other, or perhaps there's no destined connection.
But no matter what, you are the winner.
Because you have grown once again.