The people we easily encounter are all selfish and clumsy. They love others just to prove that others may love themselves. Or they hold on tightly without letting go, knowing that what they hold will die.
Not interfering with any freedom of the other party, even if he is in contact with his ex-girlfriend.
It's mutual possession and restriction.
There are two independent rooms, each working in their own room.
What exactly is love?
Perhaps, from this article by Annie Bao, you might find the answer you're looking for.
Don't confine, don't entangle, don't possess, don't expect to uncover meaning from the other person, because that's destined to be lost. It should be: the two of us standing side by side, looking at this desolate world.
When thinking about love on the road, it seems the best kind of love is when two people keep each other company.
When wanting peace and quiet, even if he is by your side, it feels like being alone.
Mature emotions require time to wait for its fruits, but we always lack patience. Who would spend ten years waiting for a person far away? Who, after ten years of being far away, would still look back and want to find that person? Some loves, because they are too eager for gain and cannot be proven, thus cannot be established.
No matter when or where, maintain a distance from each other.
When embracing, feel safe.
Able to leave at any time.
In this era filled with an impatient atmosphere, in this age weary from constant running around, at a time full of dreams for the future, full of hope for love, yet not lacking disappointment and loneliness in the face of reality's brutality, who is willing to calm down and carefully savor and ponder the true taste of love.
Very ordinary, very familiar, as if his smell is the same as your own.
Or perhaps neither.
Someone asked, since we're not philosophers, why bother to think about it?
Find a small restaurant together for dinner.
Still have the firmness of "holding your hand and growing old with you."
When walking, there can be a lot of things to talk about.
Have consistent tastes in life, including clothes and food, etc.
Contemplating love is not the exclusive right of philosophers, and those who contemplate love are not necessarily philosophers.
I want to say, when we're young, pondering some questions can save us from taking many detours. The same goes for love. What kind of love do we ultimately want? What kind of life partner do we need? In the days ahead, how do we nurture this love well? Before we step into the journey of love or marriage, it wouldn't hurt to give it some thought.
Not often thinking about each other, but knowing he is home when tired.