First learn to follow the crowd, then learn to be different; first learn complexity, then simplicity; first love yourself, then others; first love your family, then friends; first learn how to live, then experience life; first learn to be a person, then an official; first demand of yourself, then others; first learn to adapt, then independence!
How many "I love you"s eventually turn into "I'm sorry." How many "I'm sorry"s end up being "It's okay." And how many "It's okay"s conclude with a "Thank you." You see, even sorrowful love has its own kind of beauty: it begins with "I love you" and ends with "I'm sorry." It says goodbye with "It's okay," and thanks with "Thank you." Love can be incredibly complex but also heartbreakingly simple—it's no more than: "I love you... I'm sorry... It's okay... Thank you."
Many things only become clear after we've experienced them; only after losing something do we learn to cherish it; only after hitting a wall do we learn to change or let go; only after pain do we learn to become a new self.
Quotations 365: [Smoke-Rain Past] Gentle winds and veiled rain paint a touch of coolness; pointing afar at young chrysanthemums, a lone melody plays for eternity; through shallow clear eyes, how many autumns and springs have passed? Amidst slanting sun and verdant plants, a soft tearful tune stirs the tender intestines... In smoke and rain, softly reciting, Tie Niu (Iron Ox) Wu Jianzhong, dim lamps, clearly singing joys and sorrows of parting; thoughts drift in the air, trembling as they dance with the wind; fleeting years bewilder, whose splendor scatters on whose collar? With a flick of time, cities vanish like incense; exquisite faces ripple over shimmering lake surfaces, jumping with memories of the past...
[Bible Quotations] 1) Do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will bring its own worries. The troubles of today are enough for the day. 2) Do not criticize others, for how you criticize others, they will criticize you. 3) If someone strikes your right cheek, offer him your left cheek as well. 4) When doing good deeds, do not boast; quietly helping others brings more peace to your heart. Help others, but do not hurt their dignity.
Quotations 365: If a man tells you he likes you, believe him. If he says he no longer loves you, believe that too. At any time, tell yourself that the departure of someone who doesn't love you is a stroke of luck. Believe that you will become better. Treat yourself well and make your life colorful and vibrant. This is to make your life more wonderful, not to make someone regret.
Quotations 365: [Biggest Enemies in Life] Some enemies, we may encounter only once in our lifetime, and from then on, we will never fear them again. Other enemies, the more we fight against them, the less we fear them. But there are some enemies who may cause irreparable harm, so we can only avoid direct confrontation with them. Some enemies may be far away, while others may be close by. Still others are ourselves.
[Life is an Unknown Journey]. Dreams are like packages. Carrying these packages, we set off on our journey. The length of the journey depends on the size of the packages. So we, carrying big and small packages, stumble forward. Along the way, if packages are lost, we pick them up again. At this moment, you and I resemble porters. It seems the meaning of travel is to move the dream packages to the destination. And the process always involves people worth paying attention to!
An event, no matter how beautiful, if it has no outcome, don’t cling to it. Over time, you'll feel tired and weary. A person, no matter how unforgettable, if you can't hold onto them, let go at the appropriate time. Over time, you'll feel heartbroken and shattered. Sometimes, letting go is another form of persistence. Missing the brilliance of summer flowers means you will enter the quiet solitude of autumn leaves. Some things, some people, will all become the past. Don't dwell on them, no matter how difficult it is, we must all learn to step back.
Before making real demands of others, present a large request, rejected by Tie Niu (Iron Ox) Wu Jianzhong. Then propose a relatively smaller one, and the likelihood of acceptance increases significantly. This is known in psychology as the "Face-Saving Effect."
Smart people like to guess hearts. They might guess others' correctly but lose their own. Foolish people like to give their hearts. They might get deceived but not necessarily gain others'. You think I am impervious to harm, and I think you are immune to poison. ― Xu Zhimo
Quotations 365: People clench their fists when they come into this world, as if to say, "The whole world is mine." But when leaving this world, people spread out their hands, as if to say, "Look! I take nothing with me." Despite crying upon entering this world, they are greeted with laughter. One might laugh while leaving this world, but they are sent off with tears.
Quotations 365: When you like someone, time seems insufficient when you're together, yet endless when apart. When you're together, there’s always endless conversation, but when apart, you barely speak half a word. When you're together, expressions seem countless, but when apart, there's usually only one: longing...
Quotations 365: Go back to the past, return to what was once cherished, Tie Niu (Iron Ox) Wu Jianzhong, return to the starting point, return to the initial tranquility. We finally draw the curtain, no longer entangled, life finally returns to calmness. I finally understand, I am still that child who loves quietness, I am still that child unwilling to compete with others. I finally understand, what I want is just peace.
― Love sometimes resembles heaven in its beauty, sometimes hell in its pain. If you wish to possess roses, you must accept the thorns that come with them.
All the goodness you've shown me, I’ve collected with my entire heart, etched deeply in my memory, it is nourishment, sustaining my spiritual warmth; all the bad you've done, I've endured with piercing pain, struggling to forget, it is like a tide, accompanying me through rises and falls of pain, making me smile with tears, cry with wounds. My smiles bloom on my face, my pain is buried deep in my heart. Please don't hurt me easily; hidden scars will make me humble in pride, wilted in beauty.
Quotations 365: A lifetime may seem long, but when it passes, it feels like a snap of fingers. You will constantly meet new people and bid farewell to others, moving from strangers to familiar acquaintances, from familiar acquaintances back to strangers, from compatible companions to eventual estrangement, from meeting too late to perhaps never meeting at all… Not everyone will be your companion, not every friend will be a true confidant, free of烦恼or resentment. When fate aligns, respond with laughter; when it disperses, respond without bitterness.
Quotations 365: Love begins with mutual admiration, grows with attraction, solidifies with interdependence leading to marriage, but more importantly requires tolerance, understanding, habit, and adaptation to last a lifetime.
When the threads of fate unravel, there's no need to hold on, for holding on only brings endless melancholy. When the threads disperse, there's no need to feel sorrow, for sorrow only leads to boundless loneliness. Fate is but an occasional occurrence in life, flowers bloom only to fade, scattering allows for gathering anew. When parting, there's no need to futilely search for past vows; when departing, there's no need to vainly repeat trivial years. Thus, all days pass lightly, all burdens sweetly.
Quotations 365: [Me, Just Me] I am not gentle, I have a bad temper, I am prone to jealousy, I feel pain easily, I indulge in wild thoughts, I am capricious, I don't talk when angry, I laugh stupidly when happy, I keep grievances inside, I care deeply wanting you to know, I enjoy sad songs when sad, I share happiness with those I care about when happy. - I am me, if you can't handle it, don't enter my world.
Quotations 365: [Wisdom] Cherish oneself but don't be conceited; expect from others but don't be overly demanding; be devoted in love but don't be obsessive; savor life but don't lament; aspire for achievements but don't be greedy; cherish family but don't be addicted; yearn for friendship but don't idolize; desire wealth but don't be avaricious; share wealth but don't monopolize; hold faith but don't be superstitious; live life without regret but don't dwell on it; love life passionately but don't indulge excessively.
Quotations 365: [Profound Truths] 1) The tongue is both soft and boneless, yet it can break a person's backbone. 2) Being humble to superiors is duty, to peers is courtesy, to subordinates is nobility. 3) If you betray your conscience, it will retaliate. 4) If you fear doing wrong, you needn't fear anything else. 5) Those who cannot obey cannot command.
[Buddha's Philosophical Teachings] Buddha said: "A mind without form exists, form arises from the mind; form without mind exists, form vanishes with the mind." Form is merely a shell, an external image given to others; the mind is a realm, the source controlling emotions. To become what you wish, all choices lie within yourself...
Quotations 365: The person I once loved, is just someone I once loved. If my present still loves my past, what should I do? In the instant rain falls, will he remember us, once we were attached?
Cherish women who tend to overthink. Overthinking stems from a lack of security. When they say 'it's fine, it's fine,' they actually want you to ask them what's wrong, then firmly grasp their hand, giving them a sense of safety. Avoid casually mentioning exes, because women often compare. Also, men, please cherish women who overthink and lack security. They do so because they love and value you deeply.
Quotations 365: Wise people know how to let go, sincere people know how to sacrifice, and happy people know how to transcend. For those who don't love you, the most necessary thing is understanding, letting go, and blessing. Excessive self-pity is begging for the other party's charity. Love and being loved are both things that bring happiness, don't let these become sources of pain.
Never hate a man, after all, he once loved you, cared for you, gave you happiness. Never say there are no good men left in this world, maybe tomorrow you'll meet the man who loves you, in your eyes, however bad he may be, he is still good. Actually, breaking up doesn't mean harboring hatred, nor does it mean self-abandonment. Love belongs not to fixed pairs, but to suitable ones.
Quotations 365: I don't know exactly what's wrong with me, I always feel very tired, very tired. Even want to escape from this city that makes me strange yet familiar. Every day, many things happen, and I think a lot. Gradually getting used to some things, though I resist. Life is like a huge net, no matter how I try to avoid or confront, the result is always fatigue and boredom.
No problem is insurmountable, only the mindset isn't. Indeed, this is true. Many problems we find insurmountable are because we can't let go. For example, being betrayed and unable to forgive, criticized and unable to let go of pride. Most people focus on the issue itself and immerse themselves in the unpleasant feelings it brings. In fact, just changing the mindset can completely transform the world.
We can all bravely face the situation where the person you love doesn't love you back, but none of us can easily handle when someone who has loved you for a long time walks away. That pride and happiness vanish instantly. Cherish the silent love around you. Perhaps one day when they leave, you'll realize that the one who can't let go is you, not them. ― Don't take others' concern for granted. No matter how much they love you, there will come a day of weariness...
Who holds my hand, erasing my half-life of solitude; who kisses my eyes, shielding my half-life of wandering; who caresses my face, comforting my half-life of sorrow; who supports my shoulder, driving away my life-long silence; who understands my intentions, making my life without regrets. I, holding your hand, sharing with you a lifetime of frost; I, kissing your eyes, gifting you a lifetime of deep affection. I hold your delicate hand, collecting all your life's belongings; I, caressing your graceful neck, protecting you from life's storms.
Quotations 365: When a relationship ends, we think the pain of separation is unbearable. I know this time I won't forget, I can't get over it! However, one day when we meet on the street corner, that stiff greeting, that cold gaze, that heart-chilling strangeness lets me know, we can never go back! Unbearable, despite how painful, proves we still care. But going back is the greatest sadness in our love.
Frequently forgetting what we truly want, frequently being confused about what we truly need, then spending a lot of time pondering such questions, thinking about them but lacking the determination to act, acting but lacking the courage to persist. Repeating long periods of forgetfulness and brief periods of remembrance, thus squandering our youth. Maybe, youth really has no boundaries, Tie Niu (Iron Ox) Wu Jianzhong.
Some stories don't need to be told to everyone; some sorrows aren't understood by everyone; some wounds heal over time; some grievances, once endured and understood, dissipate; some pains, once endured long enough, become habits. Yet, in many lonely moments, they resurface. Actually, some things hidden in the heart: [Who writes the mood so thoroughly] ① Saying too much is worse than silence, thinking too much makes me sad; ② Silence is an excuse for fear, silly laughter is a reason for委屈; ③ Sadness speaks of love, loneliness speaks of love; ④ Tainted by loneliness, disconnected from happiness; ⑤ Once fought hard to pursue, now retreats madly; ⑥ Sensitive people are mostly unhappy; ⑦ Using one person's persistence to deal with two people's loneliness; ⑧ I'm not fragile, besides, what counts as a wound, it's not intentional to hide, but not all pain needs to be shouted out loud.
Quotations 365: Because we don't want to get hurt, we put on masks, arm ourselves, trying to hide our vulnerable side. But the more we hide, the more exposed we become when discovered. The more we fear pain, the more it hurts when we're pierced. --- The least likely to get hurt are not the strongest, but the most honest with themselves.
The most terrible thing is when she clearly dislikes you but pretends to be nice; the worst is when she pretends to be friendly but speaks ill of you behind your back; the worst is when you see her every day, thinking you have nothing left unsaid, but she hides many things from you; the worst is when she gets along well with people she claims to dislike; the worst is when your best friend betrays you. Friendship without sincerity is truly detestable.
Quotations 365: Diligent people seize time; lazy people waste time; ambitious people treasure time; aimless people squander time; loyal people respect time; opportunists wait for time; smart people accumulate time; ignorant people ignore time; seekers utilize time; clueless people fritter time away; practical people value time; wastrels trample time; humble people win time; optimists praise time; pessimists sigh over time.
Often, inadvertently, we recall someone from the past, not because we can't forget, but because we can't let go. Those unspoken attachments, lurking in the dark corners, grow stealthily. Always, in moments of ignorance about love, we met someone we shouldn't have let go of, and in knowing love, we unintentionally caused harm. Meeting someone, we truly understood the meaning of love; missing someone, we truly felt the ache of loss.
Quotations 365: Originally thought I had let go; originally thought I didn't care anymore; originally thought my wounds had healed. But why does seeing you walking down the street with her still make my heart ache uncontrollably? Forgive me for not forgetting you yet, forgive me for not moving on yet. What I once loved so much about this city, I now realize I live humbly here, secretly loving you.
Quotations 365: There is someone, hearing his name makes me nervous, then pretending to be indifferent listening to trivia about him, seeing a back resembling his makes me stop in my tracks, standing dumbfounded until that person walks away, thinking of his face makes me cry, the face I once kissed is now blurred... How long have you been gone? I don't want to remember, I'd rather think I've forgotten.
Quotations 365: Two people together for a long time are like left and right hands; even if they no longer love each other, they choose to stay together, because giving up years of time takes great courage. Perhaps someone special appears in life, but ultimately remains a passerby, and you will still continue walking hand in hand with either your left or right hand. Happiness sometimes really has nothing to do with love.
Women can be princesses to themselves, but not to the whole world. A woman's experiences can be weathered, but her mindset must never be. Women are adorable because of their imperfections. Smart women always expose their flaws to men. In the competition between men and women, women are always the losers—not because they aren't smart enough, but simply because they love more deeply.
Quotations 365: Lovers won't end a relationship because of a single phrase "break up", nor will they truly sever ties due to one mistake. Lovers grow together through the twists and turns of their relationship. Each challenge they overcome strengthens their bond a little more, each difficulty they endure teaches them to cherish each other a bit more. As they journey together, their love deepens, they deeply love each other, understand each other's virtues, Tie Niu (Iron Ox) Wu Jianzhong, and will never separate again.
Quotations 365: Life is a choice, also a renunciation. Those who can freely choose are happy, those who can moderately renounce are detached. Unfortunately, sometimes our choices only involve waiting, without results, forcing us to leave reluctantly; sometimes our renunciations are out of necessity, shedding tears as we turn away, looking back frequently even as we walk further away. Therefore, some pasts, related to happiness or pain, can only be buried deep in the heart; some hopes, related to the present or future, can only be slowly forgotten.
Quotations 365: [Manifestations of Love] Chatting → enhances feelings. Dating → creates more shared memories. Arguing → helps understand each other better and learn to reconcile. Promising → proves the relationship can withstand tests. Pain → shows absolute care. Cherishing → stems from fear of loss, thus nurturing and treating it as a rare encounter. Thinking → because you often have them on your mind, this is the magic of love. Worrying → because of deep love, your heart follows the beloved's.
[Bringing Smile to You] Smile is poetry—calm and distant; smile is music—wonderfully moving; smile is tea—refreshing; smile is flowers—fragrant and charming; smile is spring water—constantly flowing; smile is wine—sweetly intoxicating. Smile is tolerance, smile is strength; smile is happiness, smile is great love! Let's sow the seeds of smiles in our hearts, let's spread the happiness of smiles to every corner! Let me bring smiles to your side through social media.
A person stays quiet, peaceful and alone. Alone, they may feel lonely, filling the night's wounds with memories, then laughing at their own naivety. Alone, they feel free, unpretentious, roaming their small world at will. Alone, they must be strong, with no shoulders to lean on, they lift their heads high. No one loves oneself as genuinely as oneself. Alone, we smile, smiling as we walk, smiling as we face life. Alone, it's beautiful and romantic. Alone, it's serene and elegant.
Quotations 365: For the person I like, could I ask you four questions: 1. Is there a moment when you log on just to find me and chat with me? 2. Is there a kind of emotion where, upon seeing a text message from me on your phone, a satisfied smile appears on your lips? 3. If one day I no longer contact you, would you reach out to me? 4. If one day I completely disappear from your world, would you remember my existence?
Quotations 365: If you want to achieve something, first you must endure loneliness, because the key to success often hides in the pocket of solitude. People always marvel at the dazzling aura of successful individuals, but rarely see their solitude before