Try to summarize why you broke up with your ex-girlfriend, and yet so easily captured her heart. I don't know if it can be called bad, but these techniques for making girls happy still need to be written out:
1. Be independent of each other mentally, which is a necessary condition for not being led by the nose in a relationship.
If a girl depends on a boy, it can be said to be a relatively abnormal situation. Although the girl often has to accept it in the end, once a man's spirit is attracted by a woman and cannot be independent, in other words, every time you short circuit in front of her, or even short circuit for several years, then, no matter how hard-won this relationship is, if you are not absolutely independent mentally, sooner or later you will lose it, and I am a tragic example of not knowing how to make girls happy!
2. Know how to please girls. At first, I never understood what it means to "please" someone, or how to do it. I didn't even let my ex-girlfriend enjoy my pleasing. I used to think that doing my best for her was enough, but little did I know that sometimes a few words can conquer a girl's heart more than buying her many things. Now I really regret it. I can imagine how cruel it was for my ex-girlfriend to spend so much time with me without me pleasing her.
What is pleasing? Pleasing is praising. You should praise her more, praise her beauty, praise her sexiness, praise her good skin... Praise her according to the characteristics of each girl. Everyone needs to be praised, men are no exception, just women more so. Frequent praise can make people feel like they're basking in the spring breeze. In the process of getting to know her now, I am sincerely attracted by her appearance and temperament, so I unconsciously say a lot of nice words. She told me that these words are very moving, and her husband has never said them to her before!
What is pleasing? Pleasing is deceiving. Women need to be deceived in their character, harboring the factor of swallowing insults silently. Deception is not malicious moral irresponsibility, but more of a dating skill. I was surprised when my ex-girlfriend once told me that she wanted to experience the feeling of being deceived; while a girl introduced by my family told me that she was most afraid of others deceiving her. I don't know whether women need to be deceived or not, just like when I was watching "Ayi Wu Lin" the other day, I kept pondering one of the lines: Would you choose harsh truths or pleasant lies? Now, the answer should be obvious, that is, pleasant lies. Like during this time of getting to know her, I said a lot of comforting words to her, including words about marrying her. Was she aware that they were lies? Of course she was, but she was still very happy. Women, love her, deceive her! Do you know how to please girls now?
What is pleasing girls? Pleasing is caring. You need to carefully discover every subtle change in a girl's emotions. Girls' psychology is delicate. After encountering changes or stimuli from the outside world, their moods always change more or less. If work pressure is too great, they may cry inexplicably. At this time, you must not think that they are being moody or having too many issues, but must fulfill your duty as a man and comfort them well. Don't find it troublesome, she needs you to give her a strong support. For example, when a third party appears, girls usually do not immediately change their attitude and follow the third party. Their thoughts often go through a gradual change process. At this time, if you notice it in time, you should rationally and skillfully please your girl. Wisdom is the best strategy, because women are always passive and led by the nose. If you get too excited and act irrationally, it may drive your girlfriend away and speed up your breakup, because, combined with the first point, when you are mentally independent of each other, your wisdom and confidence are enough to make the girl make the right choice, and try not to get stuck in a rut.
3. Don't always boast about yourself as a good man. In the past six months, I have paid attention to a lot of controversies and analyses about good men and bad men. The reason why I wrote that I am about to become a bad man in my own title is because I feel that I have used some skills and analyzed women's psychology, and it turns out that it is very popular with the other party. Is this what is called bad? This probably needs further analysis.
In fact, what I want to say more is that you should not always claim to be a good man. This is probably a lesson warned by many experienced experts.
Love is not just about love, it requires more dating skills. If under the first condition, the mental dependence between both parties is not too strong, then the feeling of being a good man may not be too strong. Some characteristics of so-called good men: unconditional love for her, adhering to one's principles, not making promises easily, not wanting to deceive her, being responsible for her... My interpretation of these characteristics three months ago seemed very sacred and perfect, but after three months, it seems so shallow and simple to me. Relying solely on these to conquer a girl's heart is far from enough. These corresponding flaws can also be seen at any time. What I want to say is, having just these is not enough, firmly wanting to be a good man is not enough, you also need
4. Be a man who understands love. This is a sentence I remembered when reading a post the other day. Be a man who understands love, be a man who knows how to love, which is wiser than just loving the other person. Many women are easily dazzled by men who have been in love many times, that's because they have rich dating skills, they know how to love, and not just want to love. They pay more attention to the inner feelings of women, catering to their preferences. If supplemented with a proper sense of morality and responsibility, I think this is a truly good man. Defining a man's morality solely from the perspective of love skills is probably unfounded.
Dear friend, do you know how to please girls now?