1. The essence of patience is, if you want to take advantage, go ahead; if you want to be shameless, do so - it doesn't matter to me. Whatever I can offer, I will give; what I cannot provide, you should ask others for it. As for whether others will give or not, that's your business.
2. To deal with hypocritical people, it's not about scolding her or exposing her, but letting her continue being hypocritical in sadness and pretending as if you know nothing. Gradually, many people will come to tell you how hypocritical she is.
3. To deal with selfish people, it's not about hating her or ignoring her, but gradually keeping a distance from her, distancing yourself from the bottom of your heart, and pretending as if you know nothing. If she goes to others, then you will find that many people have distanced themselves from her.
4. There is never anyone you cannot live without. Someone you cannot live without now does not mean you will never be able to live without them. There is nothing you cannot give up. What you hold on to might abandon you first.
5. Except for parents, there is no one who gives without expecting anything in return. A lover treats you well based on the premise of harmonious love, and a friend treats you well based on shared interests and alleviating loneliness. As for other people, it goes without saying.
6. Although living alone is hard, you must also learn to live by yourself and not easily depend on others. This is to prevent you from still being able to live well when everyone around you leaves.
7. When you're sick, you need to take care of yourself and not wait for someone to value you. By the time you wait, you'll find that both your body and mind are already suffering.
8. When studying alone in a different place, learn to communicate more with your parents and listen more to elders. Learn to be patient, there is nothing you cannot endure. No matter how wrong others are, it's not worth punishing yourself with their mistakes.
9. Regardless of the original intention behind what others say to you, you can believe it but shouldn't fully trust it. However, when others speak, try to listen carefully and respond thoughtfully, which is a sign of respect for others.
10. Do not easily test your good friends, otherwise, you will either be very disappointed or end up wearing a "neurotic + overthinking" label.
11. Do not easily show excessive sentimentality to others, even if you truly are sentimental. Others may not understand your sentimentality and have neither the obligation nor responsibility to do so. In this way, what you intended as an emotional release could turn into self-humiliation and deepened pain.
12. Under any circumstances, don't play with others' feelings. Playing with others will result in being played with in return. Even if you are cunning, you are not the most powerful one.
13. Do not snatch others' interests, but also do not allow others to snatch yours. This is a principle.
14. There is no need to envy others' achievements, popularity, status, scholarships, etc. There are five reasons: 1. They may have put in more effort than you, though you haven't seen it. 2. These things can only bring temporary satisfaction, not permanent fulfillment, so it's better not to bother. 3. There are game rules here that you can't handle, and those who can handle them are also quite tired. 4. You have disadvantages compared to others, but you definitely have advantages too, just wait for the right opportunity. 5. Not competing for these things will give you more friends.
15. Help others as much as possible, but don't force yourself if you cannot help.
16. For those who like to oppose you, first objectively reflect on yourself, correct yourself, and eliminate your own causes. Second, see clearly how immature they are, let them be unhappy alone.
17. For people with different living habits, keep some distance, live your own life, not affecting others, and don't require others to change.
18. Good friends should settle accounts clearly. Don't make the accounts too complicated. Money comes from your parents, not earned by yourself, so spend it wisely.
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